Boundaries with the Opposite Sex
Growing up, I’ve always wondered what boundaries with the opposite sex should look like. I have parents who had major confidence in me and didn’t ask me 50 questions every time a guy friend came over. I’ve had pastors tell me that I should hardly hug a guy friend or boyfriend. I’ve watched movies that seem to depict that having sex with the guy you like before marriage is harmless. I have friends who are now happily married who didn’t even kiss their husbands until their wedding day. And the list of scenarios that have tried to define my boundaries goes on and on...
What I’m saying is that there are many different perspectives on boundaries with the opposite sex and purity, but the question is which ones are valid and should be adhered to?
When it comes down to it, I’m a simple person and don’t like a lot of fluff coating the answers I’m trying to find. I also don’t want to have to read a 20 page thesis on what my boundaries with the opposite sex should be. Opinions from random people who I barely know don’t get very far with me either. I want the truth and nothing else but the truth.
How do I find truth? I always start with what God has to say. Let’s be honest, sometimes a great Google search regarding where to find the topic I'm uncertain about in the bible is the best place for me to start.
Therefore, for those of you who are still defining your borders and for those of you who are just plain curious, I’m going to lay out the process of how I define my boundaries with the opposite sex. It took a bit of searching, but I finally know what I use to measure my boundaries!
In fact, it is a tremendously simple scenario and is based off Hebrews 13:18 in the bible where Paul says, “Pray for us, for we are sure that we have a clear conscience, desiring to act honorably in all things.”
Click below to see what my scenario and boundaries are.
What are your boundaries? What are your thoughts? Let me know in the comments below.